Feminist Porn

This discussion of feminism and porn brings to mind how men could benefit from a change in that particular industry.  Certainly the drift to a more aggressive, brutal type of fantasy in scenes, oftentimes going so far as to mimic rape (but always with the woman loving it in the end, of course) models sexual behavior for men in an inappropriate way.  The problem is the lack of choices that offer men an alternative model.  I think that a feminist or egalitarian porn that showed mutuality and, above all, tenderness between the partners, would be extremely beneficial for men, and therefore, for women.

 

I wonder if women would be surprised to learn that men don’t generally talk to one another about our tastes in porn?  It’s very much a solitary vice, with much shame attached to it.  After all, a Real Man would be out getting pussy, not masturbating to someone else getting some.  So I can’t really speak to issues of popularity, but from my own experience, I think one of the reasons I enjoy lesbian porn as much as I do is that it often shows tenderness between the actresses.  There’s at least the illusion of relaxed, light-hearted fun.  Portraying this in heterosexual couples could really be revolutionary, I think.  I’d love to see, for example, just an hour long make-out session.  I once had a friend tell me about her first kiss with another woman.  She contrasted it to kisses with men by describing it as “warm and nibbly” instead of “angry tongue-thrusting”.  Let’s have porn that showcases more tenderness and warmth expressed by men, instead of following the script that such traits are the provenance of women.

~ by arkhilokhus on April 4, 2008.

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